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I roasted a pig, how about you?

Ben Hoyer - Monday, September 14, 2009
So here's some stuff I've been thinking about.
I listened to a couple podcasts lately. One where they recorded conversations with folks that worked and visited a rest stop in New York over a two day period. Sounds like it could be a lot of nothing. But it was cool to hear all the stories, workers from the Ukraine, divorced fathers visiting their kids, crazies doing pilates in a rest stop parking lot, and backpackers heading for the Appalachian trail. It reminded me that the folks around me all day long are in the middle of their own lives. With issues and families. That strangers are more than strangers. They have lives. Like at any given moment (driving down the highway, sitting in a restaurant, or at the desk at work) there are all these stories happening in peoples lives all at the same time. It's kind of overwhelming and cool to think about all at the same time. 

Another one interviewed these guys that are advocated doing something. Again sounds simple, but their premise is that lots of people want to do cool things and some even have good ideas but never really act on them. That the road to significance and impact in life starts with doing something. It could be small or simple but you have to start somewhere. They started everymondaymatters.com and the junky car club. It's nice cause it's makes me feel like I'm doing this stuff with other people.

A friend of mine and I had the idea to roast a whole pig (he wanted to bury it, I wanted to put it on a spit). That was several months ago. Saturday night we did it. With one other friend. It was a lot of work and took all night, but yesterday a lot of people enjoyed the meat with us. It was fun to see that we had a big idea (180lbs of pig is big people) and made it happen. I am already thinking about what idea I have now will happen in a couple months. What idea do you have? What do you want to do for fun

coffee

Ben Hoyer - Friday, September 04, 2009
I have been thinking lately that our capitalist culture teaches us that we are primarily consumers. That our job is to be shrewd customers, rewarding the companies that produce the products we want for the lowest cost. For most of my life, how these companies do that has not been my concern. Recently I am starting to change my mind on that. I want to try to avoid being complicit in exploitation, and be more intentional about the places where I put my money.

When I consider the life my King Jesus lived while he was here, he spent lots of his time improving the lives of the poor, I want to emulate that wherever I can. I can’t do it all at once, and can’t be sure about where all my money goes; but I’m realizing that each purchase has potential to help out. I’m trying to make changes a little bit at a time.  

It’s in this context that I’ve started to think about coffee. Where do those delicious little beans come from?

I like coffee. I didn’t always, but I learned with beauty of the bean 6 or eight years ago. It’s a treat that encourages me out of bed in the morning, and a special incentive in some slow or tough evenings. Recently I realized that people have to grow this stuff. I mean some one some where farms the beans you use to make that coffee. It’s a nice treat for you, but serious work for someone else. It tends to grow best in countries that are less developed than the united states. In fact there are people in the world growing great coffee, that are doing good to live in small shanty style homes with dirt floors.

Recently I got connected with a gentleman that imports that sort of coffee from several small farmers in Guatemala. He pays them a better rate than they could get even with fair trade. He just wants to bless them. I do too. I think others might as well. That’s why we’re going to find places to sell it. Maybe we’ll call it Credo Coffee...what do you believe?

Walking on water

Ben Hoyer - Thursday, September 03, 2009
This "walk on water" metaphor has really been sticking with me.
Tuesday: The waves felt like a pretty big deal
Wednesday: Felt ready to step out...water here I come!
Where are you?

baptism

Ben Hoyer - Monday, August 31, 2009
here's the first thing that's coming second today cause it took a little more thought:

1. So I baptized our daughter yesterday. Through the weekend I had been thinking variously about how baptism came about and why we do it, and as I looked at little Eleanor and poured water over her head a lot of those thought flashed through my head. Things like how cool it is to live with a God who for thousands of years has loved his people so much that he graciously includes even their children in is covenant faithfullness. Before kids even know they have hands or a nose he is committed to them; he's committed to her. Also things like, the apostle Paul (the one who wrote most of the New Testament) also did this same thing, poured water on the head of people in the name of Father, Son, Holy Spirit. We just added one more to the number of the Kingdom.
But new thoughts came through my head, as dad looked at me and laid the charge of raising this little girl so she doesn't decide later to leave the Kingdom. He also reminded me that he had that charge with his kids, and seems to have done a pretty good job. It felt like a huge responsibility in that moment, like past generations were counting on me to raise future generations of Jesus followers. Later that day my grandfather (whom I respect immensely) said as I walked out the door, "keep doing what you're doing Ben." It felt like at once a recognition of the good work that I am a part of and a commission to remain faithful. All in all it was a day where I felt the weight of lots of responsibility...here comes the good part
As I put Wesley to bed I read him a story from his children's bible. We opened to the story of Jesus walking on water. We read the whole thing, through Peter getting out and sinking and Jesus helping him back into the boat. Usually when I read that story I think about how Peter got nervous and sank in the water (don't get nervous Ben). But last night it occurred to me: Peter walked on water. Peter, normal guy. Guy who gets it wrong sometimes. Guy who denied Jesus. Peter walked on water. I'm thinking if Peter can walk on water there is a possibility within us that we rarely tap. 
Here's to seeing a challenge and then rising to meet it.

a good start

Ben Hoyer - Monday, August 31, 2009
I have two things today. I'll give you the second one first, and the first one later today (it takes a little more thought).

2. I came into work today listening to a new playlist and realized how much music can affect outlook and mood, for me even attitude toward the day. Here is some of the list that got me going on a good note this morning:
Regina Spektor_fidelity
Fire Theft_heaven
Avett Brothers_a lover like you
     _swept away (sentimental version)
Ben Folds_annie waits
Bob Ducat_shelter
Cat Stevens_the wind
Tilly and the Wall_rainbows in the dark
                         _the freest man

Your Story

Paul Hoyer - Wednesday, August 26, 2009

I had a couple of conversations that ran together this week to bring me to the thoughts that I now share.

 I talked with my dad last night and he told me stories of the early part of his seminary education and his early married years, then he told me some stories about my grandfather that I had never heard. It is amazing how hearing the stories about my dad and my grandfather has changed just how I am thinking about the both of them. Equally amazing is the fact that knowing their stories is changing the way that I run my life and how I feel about my life.Knowing a little of what they went through puts my life experiences in perspective.

I also had a discussion with the staff in devotions this week about our own stories! The discussion was on just what our "witness" should be in the world that we live in today. The conclusion that we reached is that it should you telling any one who wants to hear just what God has done in your life. You don't have to have a memorized speech or lead them in just the right prayer, you simply tell those who care, why your life with Jesus is better than a life lived without him!

 So what's your story? Want to share with this online group just what God means in your life?

One more thing on health care

Ben Hoyer - Monday, August 24, 2009
I read this little blurb in TIME magazine the other day that demonstrated part of the problem. When Christians begin to think that God has a political party, things get really messed up. This idea usually stems from a misunderstanding of the Kingdom of God. Remember that Jesus came to start a Kingdom...he said as much a lot. But his Kingdom was not of this world. It is not limited by boundaries and borders, by political ideologies, or economic systems. The Kingdom of God consists of the people who allow Jesus to be King in their lives and is more closely associated with the Church than with any country. I think it's dangerous for us to think that we know how God would vote. 

health care

Ben Hoyer - Friday, August 21, 2009
I gotta say, all this health care talk is finely getting me thinking.
Megan and I wrestle with insurance bills as I'm sure many of you do. We were pretty floored as we came off of the sorts of stripped down individual plans that poor college and graduate students get. It's pretty expensive, more than we had planned on. We don't really enjoy paying that monthly bill (we have it automatically withdrawn to keep us from having to physically write it out). So I can see why people want to change the system. Plus when you see other people making so much money, it's a tough bill to write. I'm thinking that there is probably some good ideas out there. Ways the industry could be more efficient, maybe increased competition could somehow lower costs. But as I start to think about the scope and depth of the issue, another aspect of Megan and my experience comes to mind.
See just as we were getting aquainted with the true cost of insuring a young family on one salary out of the blue came the extra money we needed. It is another in the long line of demonstrations of provision that have taught me to trust the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob to take care of me. So while I'm not checked out of our countries health care conversation, I pay attention with the understanding that in the end I'm taken care of by the God who sent Jesus...regardless of my health care situation. 

mosey on in

Ben Hoyer - Wednesday, August 19, 2009
This is probably really silly, but we used to have this blog titled "So...I was thinking" and it's in that vain that I give you this:

I was getting on to I-4 this morning. Making my weekly trip downtown (I do this to remind myself that I'm trying to pull together a congregation down there, once we're able to move I'll make the trip the opposite way to remind myself that I am working for God's kingdom in Lake Mary also) and there is a guy walking up the ramp takes you toward Daytona. He's got a backpack on and looks a little road worn, but he was carrying something that got me thinking. 

He had this hat in his hands. It wasn't a cowboy hat, and it wasn't a bowler, probably most like a fedora. It was black with a colorful ribbon wrapped around it just above the brim. I was struck almost as much by how he held it as by the fact that he had it. See he wasn't wearing the that. He held it by that little pointing part in the front (you know the part I mean) and had it pressed against his chest. Like he had just walked into a room and he wanted to be polite in front of the lady folk. All this passed through my head in the second or so that I drove past him. 

Then I watched in the rearview mirror as he rounded the corner and walked up onto Lk. Mary Blvd. and started into Lake Mary. It was then that I started thinking: "It's like that guy is moseying in to town" Like folks will turn and see who the stranger moseying in from long journeys is, people will whisper to one another and guys at the barber or the saloon will wonder about him. Maybe he's thinking, "Let's see what kind of trouble I can find in this town," or "I wonder where I can wet my whistle." Then I thought, "yeah right no one will even notice, Lake Mary's not that small of a community. It's not that close knit to notice an outsider." Then I thought, "I wonder if there are communities like that?" You know what I mean? Places where people know each other? Somebody mentioned to me the other day that Holy Cross felt like home to him. Maybe there's something there.

Kids

Paul Hoyer - Monday, August 17, 2009

Kids- "Lo they are with you always, even unto the end of the earth!"

Last week was a big week for Betty and I as Ben and Megan had a new baby girl (that makes two) and Sara and John celebrated the first birthday of Owen, the cutest boy in Chicago! Being around for these two momentous occaisions gave me pause for thought. These kids start out so little and they take so much care, does it ever end?

My short answer is NO. We like to think that the lord has given them to us to raise, and under that senerio one would think that after 18 years they would be on their own and I told my kids exactly that last week when they asked. The truth is that once God gives them to you it lasts for the rest of your life. You see also last week my parents found out that my brother is getting a divorce and they feel all of his pain, even though he is 54. I realized that as long as I am around I will worry about my kids, the difference is that since they left the house I don't have as much influence on their choices. My care for them is much more in the area of prayer and praise. When they are little we control what TV they watch, who they play with, how much and what kinds of food they eat (I was told that Nacho Chips ard not on the 1 year old diet). As they get older we realize that our influence is getting smaller, the first time they listen to the teacher, but not to you! The way you feel about the friend that they have who tells them their first dirty joke! When they would rather be with their friends than with you. The final straw is when you discover, that just because you have raised them and fed them for 18 years, they are not bound to vote the same way as you in the election!!!

However, what I realized this last week is that this cycle has been going on since Adam and Eve. Can you imagine the conversation between Adam and Eve when they found out that Cain had killed Abel? "I told you that he was hanging with the wrong crownd", "He never had enough of his father's attention," "He was smothered by his mother's attention." "it is that darn U-Tube!!" As long as there have been parents, they have worried about raising their children.

I am so very proud of all of my grown children, and their spouses. They have made good choices and they are raising great children. As the parent and grand parent, I simply want to save them from the pain we have already gone through. I would like them to have the benefit of my years of experience. Then I realized that this is the definition of "Experience" is that it has to happen to YOU! I can not give someone, even my children whom I love, my experience, they have to have their own. So in the end we may be doomed to repeat the mistakes of our parents, but we also have the joy of experiencing for ourselves all that life has to offer. Live with all the joy that the Lord has for you and don't leave any behind.